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bow tie wednesday / 31.

how fun are these bow ties from BILLYBOWTIE?

ummm…i think i need all of them!

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bow tie wednesday / 25.

photo cred: {found via pinterest. original source unknown.}

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bow tie wednesday / 20.

The second I spotted this art by alister mackie I couldn’t help but wish it was hanging smack dab in the middle of my office. Alister collected the bow ties from London and Paris markets over many years and the end result is just totally GORGEOUS!

art cred: {alister mackie via show studio}


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bow tie wednesday / 17.

As I transition my dear blog into something new and rather exciting, I couldn’t help but make this week’s bow tie wednesday extra special.

One of my intentions in immersing myself into the wedding industry was not only to follow a passion, but to shake things up a bit. In my previous life (that’s what I’m calling it these days) I worked as a nurse supporting couples through the major life transition of becoming new parents. One of the intentions of the program I worked for was to acknowledge the importance of father’s in the lives of their children, as well as the importance of them and their perspective in the couple relationship and those major life transitions. Let’s just say the intention of the program rocked me to my core and opened my eyes to a lot of the things I was often overlooking in my own wedding planning process…i.e. Adam.

I ended up very much wanting to bring a similar theory/perspective to the wedding industry. Like nursing, one of my favorite things about my role in the wedding industry is that I am still supporting couple’s through a significant life transition…this time? Marriage. AND like pregnancy, the bride (female) is often the primary focus of most every discussion leading up to the wedding day and even during the day itself. What does SHE want the wedding day to look like? How is SHE dealing with the stressors of wedding planning? What color suit does SHE want him to wear? Has SHE sent out the invites yet? What colors did SHE choose?

Now don’t get me wrong. My husband had ZERO desire to interject his opinion in which shade of yellow we chose for our day…he really didn’t care. He also didn’t care about a lot of the other decisions regarding the details of our day. BUT what I do know is that he did care about whether or not our day represented us as a couple and the journey we were about to embark on. He was also the guy that spent every night for an entire month cutting cardstock with me on the floor as we handcrafted our wedding invitations from scratch. Who got the glory? Me. Even though his hands were just as blistered and bloody as my own. I also know that in retrospect the guy knows a heck of a lot more about weddings and the pressures/stressors of marriage than I ever gave him credit for. AND his perspective is pretty darn hilarious and quite insightful most the time! So as an antithesis to all of those strictly bride focused blogs/websites out there….bow tie and bustle is gonna do things a bit differently.

Hopefully once a week, (if not more!) I intend to incorporate the male perspective into this blog…hence the new tag line “ideas for him. details for her. wedding inspiration for the creative pair.” Cause guess what folks! It is a “pair” of people who commit their lives to one another on that very special day. I really believe in my heart of hearts that there is an importance in having the perspective of the groom in the wedding planning process and my goal is to make that perspective heard and represented in an industry that consistently focuses on the “her” perspective only. I will also be incorporating that groom perspective in more of my inspiration posts (style boards etc.) as well as the real weddings that I post. It’s gonna be fun!

I also couldn’t imagine a better way to introduce the transition of the blog, than to make my dear sweet hubby and new guest blogger this weeks bow tie wednesday.

Is he not the cutest thing you’ve ever seen! I sure think so!

Look for lot’s of changes around here in the coming week’s as bow tie & bustle shifts directions a bit.

Also, what do ya think of bow tie and bustle’s new mini face lift??! More on that soon!

photo cred: {sears circa 1984}

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defined: groom.


noun. a man who is about to become or has recently become part of a married couple OR: the generous, adorable and loving man who holds your heart and maybe even your bouquet on your wedding day.

photo cred: {elizabeth messina via kiss the groom}

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guest attire – the male kind.

J: Just try it on! A: But it’s not my style. J: You don’t even have a style. A: Well I just don’t like it. J: Okay try this one. A: No, it’s too tight. J: It looks great! A: No, I will never end up wearing it. J: WHY?! A: It’s too expensive. J: It’s $11 dollars!! A: Nah, I don’t want it.”

A replaces the 3 pieces of fresh new clothing back on the rack, while J pulls her hair out. They leave without purchasing anything.

Has this ever been you? Well, it’s our story at least twice a year (those two times a year when Adam is actually willing to go into the store and physically touch the merchandise). And every time we have one of these shopping experiences I ask myself “why, why, why”?!?

This experience tends to be heightened to the nth degree during wedding season. Oh my gosh. As if finding a basic pair of jeans and underwear wasn’t hard enough, lets try to find Adam a decent outfit to wear to a wedding! Throw in that every wedding is a bit different (casual, semi-formal, outdoors, indoors, on the beach, contemporary, formal) and good night folks!

I’ve picked my brain over and over again as to why “guest” attire, in particular my husband’s wedding guest attire, is so darn hard to come by. Why oh why is it that every time a wedding invitation comes in the mail I’m immediately shoving Adam in the car and racing around town in a sheer panic to find something for him to wear?

Well it’s a couple of things I think: 1. I know how much he LOVES shopping, creating an extended and painful experience for us both to enjoy. 2. It’s incredibly and HIGHLY likely that the one shirt or one pair of pants that would actually work ok is sold out in his size and 3. PRICE. PRICE. PRICE.

I am well aware that some of this attire anxiety comes directly from the price point that I know I’m going to be covering up with my hand, while distracting him with my obnoxious banter, as I maneuver the items and Adam into the fitting room. Why is it that decent men’s attire has to come with a price tag large enough to make me consider running back to a steady paycheck and financial security?? Is it too much to ask to find a suitable button-down and pair of slacks (never mind dress shoes!) that aren’t going to break the bank or fall apart in two washes? All the while which fit well, and make my husband feel comfortable, confident and dashing??

Well, I did a quick sweep of Seattle this afternoon (J.Crew, Gap, Banana Republic, Nordstrom, the list goes on…) and time and time again I find crazy price points for items Adam will either wear once, or shrink in the laundry on the first run through.

So this is where the brainstorming comes in. Where in the world can I find this perfect men’s guest attire that won’t send Adam screaming for the hills or send me off to cry myself to sleep in the fetal position? Well, I think it’s a combo of a few things:

1. Mix it up. There is no reason that a nice new pair of slacks can’t be paired with something that’s already in his closet. Even if this means digging to the bottom of the his laundry basket for whatever was worn to the last event.

2. Shop Vintage. Seriously. Try it out. I can’t tell you the number of rad clothing items I’ve found just by scouting the clothing sections at some of my favorite vintage stores.

3. Target. Target. Target. Seriously! There is some good stuff going on at that Tar – jay.

4. Online shopping. It’s amazing what you’ll find online that they don’t have in the stores and a lot of which is on significant markdown. Also, it’s not like I’m gonna get him into the fitting room at the store anyways, so I might as well buy online and have it shipped straight home…right?

5. Get Creative. Only purchase items that can be worn not only for this event or wedding occasion, but to work, out with friends or to some other fabulous affair. **Note: Thinking in this matter often eases the pain of a steeper price tag AND he seems to complain a bit less.

6. Accept it. Shopping for myself is difficult more times than not, so why would it be any different for him? Do your best to be kind and patient (take big breaths in and big sighs out) and know that it will all be over soon (and hopefully with a decent picture of the two of you next to the bride & groom to boot!).


7. Add a *bow tie* if you can convince him to wear one!

Steps to tying a bow tie:

Step 1: Place tie around neck and even out the left and right sides of the tie.

Step 2: Cross one end of the tie over the other, close to the neck.

Step 3: Loop one end of the tie between the tie intersection and your collar, just like a shoe string.

Step 4: Fold the right side of the the tie in half like a bow.

Step 5: Cross the right bow over the left side of the tie, then swing the left side over the top of the bow.

Step 6: Pull the left side of the tie through the middle of the loop to form a knot.

Step 7: Pull the bow tight by tugging on the front of the tie on the left side and the back of the tie on the right side.

Step 8: Bring the collar down and straighten out the bow tie.

Step 9: Dance around in a circle, cause you just tied yourself a bow tie!

**special thanks to GQ Magazine for the helpful steps!

Photos: 1 {Photo by: Ulmer Studios via Ruffled } 2 {Photo by: Carl Zoch via Ruffled 3 {Photo by: Simon Fazackarley via Ruffled }

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